In case you didn't notice, we have entered the backstory-exposition chapter (for at least one of the main characters).
I don't know about you, but whenever I get to meet a married person, at some point in our acquaintance I always like to ask how they got together with their spouse. I find it's somewhat rare to find a "conventional" meet-up. Their stories seem so random at times. It makes you wonder how the American variety of homo sapiens has managed to propagate for 13-15 generations. Some demographers would say that if it were not for immigration, we would be shrinking--so that is not a surprise.
What happens when two people who have an obsessive-compulsive sense of responsibility and reciprocity find themselves enmeshed into each other's life? For most of us, to find such a person with whom we had no compatibility would make us rush for the exit. In the right context, we might call such people heroes or white knights. Clete and Mariko in the 1980s have this tendency but they are very young and haven't figured out what causes they should care about yet. This kind of person needs to be really careful at that life stage whom they let recruit and exploit this primal impulse of theirs.
These are a couple of the things floating around in my brain as I have come to get know these two characters. By the way, the young Johnson Lai in Part 3 of this chapter might sound like a jerk, but he's really not. He learned a lot during the dating process. Didn't we all? Most young men I have found are terribly obsessed with physically being with young women and they wind up saying stupid, boorish things as this drive manifests itself. And thank goodness for that sex drive in the young. It's the engine behind any society's economy, politics, and culture if you think about it.
Well, time to stop thinking about these things and let's see what happened to these two odd young people so long ago...
Love,
Pops
“My,
my,” said Feng. “And you say she eventually MARRIED you with such a beginning?”
“I
know,” I said. “Hard to believe.”
“Thank
you for shar...”
“NO!
Don’t stop!” Eve ordered. “How did you get back together?”
“Were
you even listening? I told you we just kept seeing each other. Whether we liked
it or not.”
“How
did you decide to get married?” Eight added.
“Girls,”
said Feng. “I only asked him how he met his wife. He is not required to tell me
anything else.”
“Do
you really want to know?” I asked.
I knew I’d get all their heads bobbing up and
down. I had not visited this psychic territory in years, at least not in such
depth. It felt nowhere near as bad as I thought it would. Perhaps I had moved
on.
“There’s
not too much more, unless you want to save it for another day?”
“Don’t
leave us in the middle,” said Faye, “I will never sleep if you stop there. Can
you take us to … the end?”
The end? After a couple weeks she just showed
up every weekday with lunch, and I showed up at the end of her shift weekdays and
weekends and walked her home. I felt bad she was spending money on me for food.
A Japanese American female friend of mine said it’s bad luck or rudeness to
give back an empty container to someone who gave you something, and just throw
something in. So I started giving her random useful items, like a bar of soap,
or cotton balls, or a box of paper clips. The total number of reciprocations
had gotten off, probably in her favor, but it didn’t matter at that point—the
habit had set in. I like habits. They make me feel secure. I think we both took
comfort in the regularity of duty to another, even if it were for someone we
didn’t particularly like or appreciate. In fact, we said hardly a word to each
other except thanks.
There was Laundromat nearby. I’d do my laundry
once a week on Friday nights just before picking her up. One evening she came over on her coffee break
and handed me a bundle while I was correcting papers during drying cycles.
“No more
office supplies! I have no use for them. You probably steal them from the
school.” She had me there. “Please wash these.” I nodded my assent, and it was
fine with me, so I did her wash—sheets, towels, her other uniform. I must have
done OK because I got the regular job. Never her underwear though.
After about three months, I was walking her
home one night and she stopped. I was in the habit of following her as I have
said about five to six steps behind her. She turned about and walked back to me
and stood by my side.
“Let us
talk while we walk, if you do not mind?”
“What
about?”
“I have
been thinking.”
“Yes?”
“I think
that any woman who would live a life with you would not have a very exciting
life, but it would be a calm, peaceful, and … I think good one.”
“I take
that as a compliment. I very much admire my parents who almost do nothing but
sit together at night and just enjoy one another’s presence, resting from the
day’s work. I hope to do as well as they did.”
“I think
I would like to live such a life with you.” I had to stop right there.
“Rico,
what are you saying?” She became very thoughtful.
“It
would be so much easier. That way, I would not have to poison you, or push you
off a bridge, or run you over with a car, or shoot a gun into your head or
chest. I have been thinking about that a lot lately.” I had no idea how to
respond to that. I decided to just match her naïve foreign earnestness.
“Well I
knew you didn’t like me all that much, but I can’t imagine that I’ve incited you
to murder me. I mean, there are other choices in-between to consider, besides marriage
or murder, to deal with someone you don’t like very much. Although I suspect in
most cases, dislike tends to set in AFTER the wedding, not before.”
“I cannot
say that anymore. That I do not like you very much, I mean.”
“I can’t
say it either. Would you like to try going on another date?”
“NO!
Dates are meaningless. And a waste of money. We would not learn anything else
that we don’t already know.”
“But we
don’t know anything about each other. Or each other’s families.”
“That
will come. Soon enough.”
“So
what? Are you proposing . . . marriage?”
“Not
really, no. Because we are already halfway married are we not?”
I thought about how my mother would make my
dad’s lunches that he took to work to the print shop. And how he would drive to
the store where she worked and he picked her up every night. We were damn near
indistinguishable in that regard.
“We
are,” I said in surprised recognition. “So, you’re suggesting we just complete
having the other half.”
“Yes.
And I think that is usually the other half that couples try out first is it
not? We are just doing it in reverse order.”
“How did
you get to be so smart and observant of American culture?”
“I am
halfway married to a man who is halfway a college professor.”
It was the first time she ever smiled at me. I
was not looking for a wife, and yet I found something about her compelling.
Something inevitable. Something or some ONE that you cannot remember having
been without once you have been introduced. I turned her around and we started
walking arm-in-arm in the opposite direction.
“Where are we going?” she asked.
“OUR
home. You have a roommate, I don’t. But first I need to drop by Thrifty and get
you your first wedding presents.”
“Oh?”
“A
toothbrush and a change of underwear.”
“I think
I am going to like living with such a practical man, even if he is NOT
romantic.”
I told her later that we should go on her day
off downtown to the courthouse and apply for a marriage license, and that
there’d probably be some issues we’d need to deal with because of her alien status,
but the international students office could probably give me some advice.
She insisted that she had her own ideas on
that, that we would have a ceremony in the custom of her family’s religion, which
was just as binding upon her and, she hoped, me.
So that very weekend, at her request, we went
to the seaside. I borrowed a friend’s car and we found a beach that was fairly
secluded and private. The water was calm and the weather was clear, sunny, and
beautiful. We waded into the water up to our shoulders. We removed our clothes
and gave them to our sole witness, the cousin with whom she had been staying.
We joined hands and said something in a language that seemed to me like some
kind of East Asian pidgin, but I’m told it was essentially something as simple
as “In the name of the god of the oceans, I declare my love for you and pledge
my devotion forever.” She found some kelp and we tied or wrists to each other.
We then knelt down under the water, fully
submerged, came back up, repeated the procedure, and one more time. In the
third immersion, we put our mouths together and passed our breath back and
forth until it was so stale we had to rise together. That was it. I it was me
who insisted we exchange rings. Very thin bands were all we could afford, but in
my family’s tradition the only gold worth giving to one another had to be 24K.
I never liked being in the ocean—it always made me anxious. But with her I was
fine since she was so secure amid the waves.
I wanted to take her home to meet my parents,
but she asked to give her some time. She knew she was not the right ethnicity
to be fully accepted by my people. I suspect she was waiting until she was
pregnant, the time-honored tactic of final resort in marriages where there is
parental disapproval.
A few months later, on one Saturday morning, after
we were done enjoying . . . let’s just say enjoying each other’s physical
company and were having a hard time deciding to get out of bed. It was one of
those very dry, cool autumn days, right before it snaps cold. It makes your
skin highly sensitive, and very smooth, and yet textured. I don’t suppose it
ever gets like that here. We just lay there endlessly rubbing our limbs against
each other.”
“Professor!”
interrupted Feng. “Is such detail really appropriate for these children to
hear?”
“I
have no idea what’s appropriate. I’m a foreigner! Remember? And aren’t they all
adults by your custom anyway?”
“Just
don’t go any farther than that please.”
“I
get it. No rubbing. How about dry humping?”
“I
beg your pardon.”
“Kidding.
Where was I?”
Anyway,
I wished that moment could have lasted forever. But then she cuddled up to me
asked me something.
“Clete?”
“Yes?”
“Have I
ever asked you for anything?”
“You
asked me to take out the trash just last night.”
“I am
serious.”
“Are you
ever not serious? But no, you never have. Nothing big. Are you about to ask me to
buy you a car or something like that? Because if you are, next year I’m lined
up for a contract position as an assistant geologist for this drilling company.
It won’t interfere with my thesis work and it will pay pretty well and then . .
.”
She
fingered my nose. “You always jump off into something like that. No. I do not
want you to buy me a car. I have just one thing to ask of you, as your wife.”
“We’re
going to be together a long time. I’m sure there’s not going to be just one
thing. I don’t want to make a liar out of you.”
“It is
important. If you do this one thing. I will not make a demand of you again, and
you may ask me something equally hard.”
“This
has to do with another man, doesn’t it?”
“No. You
are SO insecure. There will never be another man for me than you.”
“Darling,
if I can give it to you, I will.”
“Would
you, . . . would you, . . . , this is so hard . . . would you please not go on
that field survey to your Island E251?”
Let me stop at this point to say that E251 was
the name of an island in a group of islands in the South Pacific that my
advisor, Dr. Winston, was studying. That was the blind name of an uninhabited
location that I was assigned to visit and survey. Working under Winston is where I developed my
interest in island geology which is what still drives me and why I am here on
your island today. It was hard to get someone approved and had to be arranged a
year in advance while they ran a thorough background check on you. I was set to
depart later that year to begin that survey. The anonymity of the place was
important because I was also supposed to be a psychological test subject,
recording my feelings of expected discomfort and unease as I charted totally
uncharted territory.
“That’s
right! You’re not on the approval list! Damn! I’d better call Dr. Winston
immediately … Baby, I know what you’re
thinking, but surely they’ll let me bring my spouse.”
“But we
don’t have an American marriage paper.”
“Don’t
worry about that. I wonder if my department head can do something in that
regard. We can go to City Hall on Monday.”
“But, that’s
not it. I just don’t want you to go.”
“Why
not? This has been in the works for years. If I don’t go who knows when they’ll
approve another researcher, if ever? Dr. Winston has been counting on me for
this. Why shouldn’t I go? I mean, there’s no way I’m going without you. I’ll
find a way. I promise. The congressman for this district is an alum, he’ll get
the strings pulled. . .”
“I do
not care about that. Just promise me you will not go. That is the only thing I
will ever ask of you.”
“Why?”
“I have
a reason, but I cannot tell you.”
“Cannot
tell me? Rico! You have no idea how crucial this is to my graduate career. My
career in this field? It’s a very small world. If I get a reputation as a flaky
guy it’ll be way hard to recover. I may have to get another advisor cause he’ll
drop me like a hot potato. Then I have to start all over. What is this? So this
is the test, right? My loyalty test? AFTER THE FACT?” I looked at Rico and she
was so broken. She looked worse than I felt. I had evidently decided. “Aw man,
Winston is going to kill me.”
“So you
will not go?”
“You’re
really serious about this request then? And you want I should just trust you?”
“I don’t
have the right to ask this. But I will never ask such a thing again.”
I sat
up, but then fell back in resignation onto our pile of cheap pillows. “A wife
is bigger than any dream … ”
“What?”
“A
faculty advisor told me that, prior to starting down the road to my doctorate.
I didn’t know what he meant at the time. Now I do. He was telling me not to get
married until after I got my doctorate.”
“So that
means?”
“I will
not go.”
“Oh
thank you, thank you, thank you, my darling! I LOVE you! I will do anything for
you.”
I didn’t know it then, but it was both one of the highest and the lowest points in my entire life. That would have been my first international trip and a project that I REALLY wanted to do. I was so disappointed. And yet there had been nothing I had ever said or done in my life that had made any person so happy or joyous.
The E251 project was scrapped. Departure date
came and went. Winston assured me it was not a problem. He said there were
other islands and atolls in his long-range project that had years to run and
that he understood the needs of a young newlywed couple.
I ran into him at a symposium years later.
After the project lost me as an approved researcher and a test subject, it
basically halted. The sponsor backed out, and Dr. Winston accepted a position
at a more prestigious school with secure underwriting for better projects, so
it had been for the best, in retrospect.
Unfortunately, the same thing cannot be said
for my marriage. My wedded bliss only lasted another three months. I returned
home from work to our apartment to find a letter from Rico:
Dearest
Clete:
I don’t
really know how to say this. You are so much better at words than me I feel
really bad about it, and sad.
My father
asked me to return to home. He will not allow me to bring a husband of my own
choice. He is a very powerful man where we come from and he will kill you if
you come to find me. That is all I can say.
You did
that one thing for me at great cost and I will be always grateful. And I will
always be faithful to you until the end. I so wanted to be with you always. It
was the happiest time of my life. I am sorry if I have ruined your life. So
very, very, very sorry. My heart is hurting so much to write this and not see
your face anymore.
Rico
That short existence of knowing and loving Rico
was like a dream come and gone to me. I had gone someplace else, picked up by a
tornado that took me to Oz, stayed there for a time, and then it dropped me
back in Kansas. From color to black and white. I went looking, of course, for
years. I made several trips to Hawaii, talked to endless numbers of hotel
domestic staff, showing her picture. All paths came to nothing. I realized I
had never collected much background information about her. Her employer, the
diner, discovered her ID was not terribly accurate, but that was pretty typical
in their business I was told. My wedding band was demoted from left ring-finger
status down to being a mere separator keeping work keys separate from personal
keys on the ring in my pocket.
My friends and students told me I was like a
black cloud that rolled in wherever I went at that time, but that eventually
passed. I mean, I knew guys who had relationships with girls whom they moved in
with, for longer periods of time. They had their laughs, and sex, and more sex,
and then broke up. And then moved on to the next one. I seemed to have had the
exact same experience as they did. But mine seemed different. I never moved on.
Why? We weren’t really married. Not in the eyes of California. Because we held
our breath underwater naked together for a few minutes? As time passed, it was harder and harder to
put my finger on what we shared and why it hurt so much when it ended.
One of my advisors recommended me for some
geology work for an oil and mining exploration partnership which I took on. It turned out I had a knack for applied geology rather than research—so my doctoral work
then shifted away from geology to petroleum engineering. That was a move that
finally made my father happy. He was afraid I was going to become some poor
academic that he would have to support until he died. I had finally taken up
where my brothers had left off, and moved into something useful. Maybe it was
for the best. I was free to go to far-off, distant and dangerous places that no
constant wife would ever approve of. And I never looked back. I guess I’m
looking back now.
“By
the way. What happened to your brothers that you talk about?” It was Feng
asking that.
“I
had two older brothers, Franklin, one year older than me. And Dolan, two years
older than me. They were brilliant those two guys. Ran circles around me
academically. BUT, I’m a good teacher. They couldn’t explain anything to save
their lives. Frank was like my best friend. They were both studying engineering
at Stanford. The year I was a senior in high school they were home for spring
break. When they drove back up to Palo Alto a drunk driver hit them on the
highway and they were both killed. My mother went into a kind of depression
after that. She sort of stopped talking, to anybody. When she did, it was very
short phrases with no emotion. She had become a living ghost. She lived to see
me get my first doctorate, but she did not survive long after that. Dad passed
too before a year went by.”
I just sat there quietly for a time. I forgot
anyone was there when I heard a shudder. I looked over.
“Xiao
Mei. Mary. You’re crying. Please don’t. I went over to her and held her.” She
put her head into my chest.
“I’m
so . . . so . . . rry . . . Dr. Wong.”
“Why
should you be sorry?”
“That
I asked you to tell that story. I didn’t want it be that sad. You’re all alone.”
“Hush.
This happened a very long time ago. I’ve grown older and wiser because of it.
I’ve shed my tears already. I’m glad it happened while I was young and
resilient.” More shudders. “Look at all of you! Stop it! I’m fine now!”
“But
young Clete is not,” said Ling.
“He’s
long gone. Don’t worry about him.”
“Do
you think Rico is still out there somewhere?” asked Qin Qin.
“I
stopped caring a long time ago. But yes, I know she’s someplace. I think I’m very
gifted at finding hidden things. But she hid herself very well. If she wanted
to find me I’ve been in plain view my whole life. I hope she’s happy though,
wherever she is. Now look what you’ve done. My eyes are wet now. Ling you
should give your mother the signal to shut down the power.”
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Be truthful and frank, but be polite. If you use excessive profanity, I'll assume you have some kind of character flaw like Dr. Wong. Tks!